“Being happy does not mean that everything is perfect, it means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections”
We all strive to be our best selves, to be happy, to have the perfect house, the perfect career, the perfect family, and the perfect life.
We see this as unattainable at times, and we begin to go in the wrong direction. The more quickly we move forward, the more difficult it becomes to reach our goal.
Are we failing in our search for the perfect life? And will that perfect life make us happy?
I am beginning to think that our pursuit of success and happiness is, in fact, the main reason we are unhappy.
We have great expectations for ourselves: we want to be successful at job, with our spouse, with our family, and with our friends. To this, we add all of the ideas about weight, looks, and health that society instils in us on a regular basis.
And when we look around and see all these individuals who appear to be accomplishing all of this, we feel terrible, as if our efforts are in vain. As if our efforts were in vain.
Please keep in mind that what you see on social media is simply the positive side of things. Because it isn’t the complete picture, expecting you to comprehend it is impractical. You are, on the contrary, putting yourself in a position to fail.
You are the only one who can determine what happiness is for you. Stop doing what others tell you to do in order to be happy and start doing what you enjoy.
You’ll discover a lot about yourself and others. About how people are content with their flawed but genuine lives. You will discover that:
- Things don’t always go according to plan.
- You’ll never be able to cross everything off your to-do list.
- You’re doing the best you can with what you’ve got, which is already near-perfect.
- Nobody’s life is flawless (despite what it may seem on Facebook or Instagram).
- Happiness isn’t a goal to strive towards. Happiness can be found at any time, in any situation, and in any location.
Seeking a Perfect Life is What Prevents Us from Being Happy.
We plan a weekend and then become enraged when it rains and disrupts our plans. This perspective keeps us from appreciating the reality that it is the weekend and we can spend time with the people we care about doing things we enjoy (even if it rains).
We want our to-do list to be complete, which is impossible to achieve. Others will appear on the list as you accomplish them.
You’ll never have enough money saved, so you’ll have to put in more effort to get it. What’s more, you know what? that when you get there and have all the money you thought you’d need, you’ll realize it’s not enough and that you’ll want more.
When being human means having a few, we’re looking for a perfect partner.
We anticipate things to go our way, but reality isn’t always like that. It is full of ups and downs as well as unexpected twists and turns. Even the happiest people experience ups and downs.
We search for the ideal work, one that we will like every day. However, there are ups and downs in work. Even the wealthiest and most famous artists and athletes, who make a career doing what they love, grumble about their schedules, lack of time for their partner and family, and the pressures of celebrity and the media.
Every Good Thing has Its Less Good Side, and Vice Versa. Because True Perfection is Always Imperfect.
Our desire for perfection is what leads us to make poor decisions. We come to a fork in the road and want to make sure we’re making the right choice, but how will we know when we’ve arrived at the end of the road if we’re only at the beginning?
You’ll never find out. You will always win and lose something, no matter what decision you choose. There are no such things as “bad” or “right” decisions, much less “perfect” outcomes.
We are going away from happiness and perfection when we get preoccupied with obtaining them. Happiness is always available, even in the midst of our everyday life’ imperfections.
Happiness comes from appreciating what we have rather than striving after what we think we desire. We will have found true happiness if we can focus on the greatness of each imperfect moment.