Knowing when to sleep with the new guy you’re meeting can be difficult at times. Some people advise waiting till the third date. Others suggest that you wait until you know he isn’t dating anyone else. And you have to wait till marriage to practice your religion.
And you know what I’m saying? You have the right to sleep with him whenever you want. The problem is that it’s not always clear when this is the case.
It’s completely understandable; you like him and want to impress him. Even if you are the most self-reliant woman on the planet, you dream about him being drawn to you and going crazy for you. And it’s a guy who says we’re reasonable.
You’re young, he’s treating you well, he makes you feel wonderful, and you enjoy sex. So, let’s get started, shall we?
Given that you don’t have much time to contemplate, here are four easy questions to consider before going to bed with him:
1. What do I Really Want?
It’s a basic question, but it’s one that’s easy to overlook.
What exactly are you looking for at the moment? Do you want to start anything serious or just have sex on the weekends? You don’t have to know exactly what you want, but if you want something serious, you’ll need to think about it a little more. Going to bed can have a significant impact on your relationship.
Sex is wonderful, but it tends to make things more complicated. You’re taking a long time to get it on with him if you don’t want anything serious, but if you’re interested and want it to turn into a relationship, think again.
Because he appears to be a serious female, I’m not urging you to deny your urge to procreate with him. If you want to sleep with him and are confident that you won’t regret it in the morning, go ahead and do it.
2. What does He Want?
Never ask a guy what he’s up to with this the first night you sleep with him. Because not even he will be aware!
While you’re with him, consider this: Does he appear to be a f****dor on the hunt for a day’s prey? Is he emotionally receptive to something else? Is it clear that you’re letting this go?
Whatever he desires, the most important thing is that you look after yourself and be concerned about yourself while remaining considerate. Men have feelings, too, when it comes to relationships.
3. Do I Mind If He Sleeps with other People?
Being the only girl in his life isn’t a necessity for sleeping with a boy you just met, but if you’re one of those gals who prefers exclusivity, this one might not be for you.
If he is evasive when it comes to telling you how many people he is meeting right now and you don’t want to be one of them, you should consider sleeping with him a few times.
Remember that everyone has the right to do whatever they want; he isn’t any worse or better for sleeping with multiple women at once. What you do deserve is for him to be open and honest with you about that matter, so you can decide whether it’s something you want to do or not.
4. Do I feel I Owe You Something?
Don’t sleep with him if the response is yes.
It makes no difference to me if he buys you dinner, invites you to the movies, or takes you to Paris.
Sex is a highly personal and powerful decision that can have a wide range of repercussions. And all parties must believe they are on equal footing. You shouldn’t feel obligated to him in any way.
Never let a man make you feel obligated to sleep with him in order to see him again. Make no decisions you don’t want to make, and make it apparent that you can make them whenever you want.
It’s fine if you want to wait until you’re more sure of yourself.
Guys don’t give up easy, and the proper person for you will be willing to wait however long it takes. It makes no difference when you choose to sleep with him.
If you’re honest about your wants and requirements, I’m confident you’ll make the best decision for you. Everything happens in its own time. Allow everything to flow and nothing to stifle it.